Who am I as a communicator

The two people that evaluated me on my communication anxiety, verbal aggression and my listening styles scores ranges were the same as mine. One of the people that took the test was my husband and the other was a colleagues. Nothing actually surprised me because my husband know me better than I know my self in many circumstances and my friend has seen me in action and we have talked about the way I communicate. What I have learned this week is that even though I do not judge a book by its cover I cannot let someone that looks like someone I know determine their characteristic in my mind  and put them in the same box. At the age of sixty I am pretty set in my ways and I feel my communication style gets the job done. I know we can all improve but I do believe that it is hard to teach a older person new tricks.

Communicating with different culture and groups

I do not find my self communicating with people from cultures different than mine any differently except when I meet someone from a different country. Then I find myself listening more attentively when I am communicating with them. Many times I am trying to grasp what they are saying. There are many cultures in my family through many means. I am use to talking with people from different cultures.

Of course I talk to my friends differently than I talk to my children or adults older than myself. I think I speak with them adequately but  not equally. I have friends from all different walks of life. I communicate with them as to where they are at. The conversation with each will probably take different turns but the initial conversations will be the same. I believe I am not here to judge but to try and understand each other through communication.

Verbal and nonverbal communication while watching a television program with and without sound

The show that I watched was Once Upon a Time and I watched the first episode.This program is suppose to be about fairy tail characters coming to life and all are trapped in a town named Story Brook Main.
 Except for snow white the dwarfs and the prince all of the assumptions I made about the relationships between people were all wrong while watching the program with no sound. Henry which happens to be (snow whites daughter) Emma's son that she gave up for adoption was not apparent. She did not seem to know who he was. At the same time she seemed concerned because she put him in her car.  Arriving in the town of story brook Emma stopped her car and got out. A man stopped her she did not seem to know him and I figured he was trying to hit on her.When Emma met Henry's adopted mother she seem friendly towards her. The other times they crossed path she seemed to become more hostile towards her. When snow white and the prince visited someone in prison her husband seemed very apprehensive but upon leaving snow white turned and said something to the man. So I thought what ever the man was saying got her attention. When the witch came to the wedding of snow white the prince seem to know her by the way he reacted to her. Henrys adopted mother seem to have a estranged relationship with her son because upon arriving at home he did not want to go in and he ran passed her.  Except for the very beginning I was totally lost as far as what was going on . When I viewed the program again with the sound a new form of communication emerged.

I figure my assumption would of been  more correct if I was watching a show that I watch often.  One thing that was brought more to my attention is that you cannot judge a book by it's cover. In other words all is not what is seems to be in nonverbal communication. Nine times out of ten the assumptions will probably be wrong. It is almost like reading in between the lines.

Effective Communicator

The person that came to my mind as an effective communicator is my pastor Dr. Sarah McNairy. She is able to talk to people where they are at. She does not talk at you but with you. She makes eye contact with people when need be.  She inspires you when she communicates and makes you feel all things are possible. She speaks with clear tone all of the time. She can hold the attention of a few or a whole congregation even the children. My pastor means what she say and say what she means. The way she carries herself contributes to her communication style.She is an awesome communicator. I would like to take on her communication style because I am a shy person. I need to become more outgoing when I speak and not let anyone  talk me down as to what I am communicating to them.