Last week was spring recess in Rochester N.Y. One of my grand children's mother called asking me if my grandson could come over to spend the night because she had to be to work at 7am the next morning These were extra hours she picked up. I explained to her that I was tired and when my child care children left I was going to sleep. She tried to persuade me by saying that he is no problem and that she would send things for him to do. As if I do not have things for him to do. My grandchild is 7 and when he comes over he expect me to play games with him and keep him occupied with activities. She went on to say no one ever wants to help her when she ask. This became a conflict within my self because I always try and help anyone in need and this was concerning my grandson After a while she had him call me crying on the phone asking if he could come over. I started to give in but I held my ground. I am learning too take care of myself. The way I compromised with her I informed her I would watch him during the day tomorrow and that she could drop him off in the morning. That was not truly the first thing that came to my mind. I thought I should not answer the phone when I see any numbers that she calls from. I realized that would not be fair to my grandchild if he tried to call me. The NVC has taught me to listen empathetically and express myself with honesty without assertiveness. The 3rs are an asset to all forms of effective communication.
Deborah
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